A father has been applauded after he declined his daughter’s request to walk her down the aisle because she didn’t invite her gay and nonbinary siblings to the wedding.
Weddings are meant to be a special occasion for a family to come together to celebrate a couple’s joyous moment, but this particular case proves it can be more complicated than that.
One man took to Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole” sub-platform to reveal that he was left stunned when he discovered that two of his children weren’t invited to their sister’s forthcoming nuptials.
When the original poster – who goes by the handle @Mammoth_Inside_2431 – confronted his daughter about this, he was surprised to find the reason why.
The dad was left stunned when he discovered that two of his children weren’t invited to their sister’s wedding. Credit: Neustockimages / Getty
The dad began his post: “My daughter Casey is getting married this winter to her fiancé Max (27m) who she has been together with for about 4 years.
“I am covering the majority of the wedding expenses as Max’s family lives in a different country and with the currency exchange rate they won’t be able to afford the wedding and both to come to the wedding. I have no issues with it and just want my little girl to be happy,” he continued.
He explained that he was shocked to learn that his other children Alex, who identifies as nonbinary, and Tom, who is married to a man, had not received their invitations.
“I have called Casey and demanded an explanation. My daughter said that Max and his family don’t feel comfortable with couples that are not traditional and it goes against their culture and that she hopes for my understanding,” he said.
Due to this, the father told her that he would not walk her down the aisle and would also stop paying for her wedding, because “she can not exclude her family like this when they did nothing wrong,” adding: “If her future in-laws’ opinion is so important to her, they can pay for the wedding.”
As a result, Casey called him an a**hole and hung up crying. “My children are on my side, my wife is torn as she understands where Casey comes from but agrees she shouldn’t have excluded her siblings like this,” he concluded.
The bride explained that her husband’s family did not want people who were not in “traditional” relationships at her wedding. Credit: Davidf / Getty
Many people rushed to the comment section to praise the father for standing up for his other children and unanimously agreed that Casey was wrong for catering to her in-laws without considering how hurt her own family would be.
“Casey can be bigoted on her own dime. I would never put my money into an event that discriminated against two of my kids like this. I also think it’s pretty scummy that she didn’t even have the guts to tell Alex and Tom they were being excluded,” one person said.
Another shared their opinion: “You should not foot the bill for a party that celebrates a union of your family and Max’s if they don’t accept your entire family. You’re right that if they think they’re entitled to dictate which members of Casey’s family are allowed to attend, they’re the ones who should pay for it.”
The dad refused to pay for the wedding unless all of his children were welcome. Credit: Tetra Images/Getty Images
A third said: “She’s being bigoted and hateful to your other children, so she can pay for her own wedding,” while a fourth added: “Don’t back down, she is making her choice, you need to make your choice, you cannot support her behavior, paying for the wedding and attending it would also mean you are accepting it, condoning it.
“In this case, you need to stand up for your other children. If you give her a pass on this now, what other occasions are your children going to be excluded from,” they concluded.
Do you guys agree with the father’s choice?