When I asked my neighbor for a favor, she declined, but she continues to ask me to drive her daughter to school. As a result, I made sure to get ready for the situation.
Karen, who lives next door to me, has a kid who is the same age as mine. Due to an early meeting, she requested that I accompany her daughter Emily to school “just this once.” Emily is her daughter. It didn’t seem to be a problem! But the phrase “just this once” rapidly became a request that was made virtually every day. I took on the role of her unpaid chauffeur; I did not offer to pay for the petrol, nor did I intend to repay her favor.
Then, the week before, I was running behind schedule, and I asked Karen if she would be willing to take my daughter, Sophie, for a single occasion. How did she react? “Uh, but… I would, but there is not enough space in my car to accommodate it. Bear in mind that she goes around in an SUV.
I was raging with rage. Even though it was an apparent untruth, she did not even make an effort to conceal it. As a result, I made the decision to instruct her. I was not surprised when she sent me a text message the following morning: “Would you be able to take Emily to school today?” I have a meeting that starts early. Thank you!
Just right. “Sure, Karen,” I responded to her. “Not a problem!!”
To go to the school, however, I decided to take a short diversion instead of going straight there. I drove Emily and Sophie to a coffee shop in the neighborhood, where we sat back and enjoyed a half-hour of relaxation while eating pastries and drinking hot chocolate. To demonstrate to Karen that my time was valuable as well, and that I was more than simply her free chauffeur, I wanted to accomplish this.
Following the conclusion of our brief breakfast break, I checked the time and discovered that we will be arriving at the school in a short amount of time before it will begin. At long last, I was able to drop Emily off, and I watched as she hurried to get to her classroom before the bell rang.
Later on that day, Karen sent me a text message in which she inquired about the reason why Emily had been so close to being late. In response, I said in a casual manner, “Oh, I’m sorry about that? For breakfast, we took a little stop along the way. Since I was doing you a favor, I thought it would be appropriate for me to treat the females.
The response that she gave was immediate and tinged with annoyance. “Emily came very close to missing her very first class! In the future, I would appreciate it if you could only attend to the school.
In response, I said, “Of course, Kathleen! Just so you are aware, the next time I need you to help me out with petrol or swap favors, I will require your assistance. Don’t you think it’s only fair?
There was no response from her, but the message was unmistakable. Following that, the daily demands ceased, and Karen gained the understanding that learning to rely on the compassion of another person required a certain amount of reciprocal respect and attention. And from that point forward, I was able to take pleasure in more peaceful mornings with my own kid, since I was no longer the chauffeur of the neighborhood.